ranting blog about relationshipsi should be studying for psychology and i promise i will right after i blog at least once. i haven't blogged in forever and have claimed that i would start again, many times. in the past month or so, i've noticed a lot of break ups around me. it's kind of saddening because i despise seeing my friends go through this however it doesn't really surprise me. i guess in the following blog i'm going to sound sexist and perhaps bitter but its a little difficult when no one around you proves other. why is it that men can't take a relationship serious ? i know not all men are like this but pretty much the majority. perhaps you think i am being immature but it's what i've been seeing all around me and if this is what i'm going to continue to see around me then you can pretty much guess i'll remain single for a long time...or at least until i get out of this city if that should ever happen. next are some examples that favor my argument. A Linda* called me two weeks ago and informed me that her boyfriend of a little over three years suddenly broke up with her. He needed a break and college became too much. At first, he pretty much toyed with her mind before officially ending it. Being frustrated and upset, then telling her everything was going to be ok, then being rude to her, then saying it was fine then finally breaking up with her. B i find out that Sarah's* boyfriend just ended their 3 year relationship as well. This was as well a break. He wanted to move schools (4 hours away) because he wasn't getting a "college experience" then has the nerve to be upset at Sarah for not being supportive. C then there's my last relationship with Tony*. Tony and I dated for almost two years before he threw the similar bomb that was given to Linda and Sarah. School was becoming too much and he couldn't hack it. he also mixed in a bunch of other things but that was the main one, i guess. well, it was a temporary break that turned permanent. i don't understand why men do what they do ? for linda, her boyfriend was in college for 3 years already and hacked it just fine and with a job before which he doesn't have now...and all the sudden he can't handle it ? for Sarah's situation, when did partying become so important ? i thought you wanted to marry the girl and now partying is your main priority ? oh and to add to it, i had a discussion with a male friend a few days ago who told me to not look for anything serious because i wasn't going to find it. i guess that added to my sexist thinking as well. here's a few situations i've been through or witnessed through friends and will never understand: ben tells cecily he wants to take a break because he can't handle things with school and work but he still loves her. cecily recommends taking space meaning, no phone, no seeing eachother, just time apart but obviously still being eachothers girlfriend/boyfriend (yes, pretty much just the title) ben refuses yet wants to hang out with cecily...if he wants a break why does he want to hang out ? this seems a bit contradicting in the sense that he wants to be single to roam around. many people will argue against cecily stating "its just a title', if its just a title why can't ben handle it ? laura cheats on mike. mike breaks up with laura. laura begs. mike takes her back. laura flirts with more guys and does unappropriate behavior that is not yet considered cheating but could elevate there. mike takes it. why ? daniel breaks up with sandra for another girl. things don't work out for some reason or another. daniel asks sandra back out. sandra accepts. why ? zack constantly disrespects mayra. he hangs out with other girls who he has interests in without telling mayra. mayra senses something wrong. mayra finds out, mayra stays with him. why ? troy pretty much acts like noah from the notebook until he and nora decide to have a baby. during the pregnancy, troy is nothing but careless with nora. going out to drink late at night. says he's at work when he's with friends, calling her vulgar names and nora takes it all. why ? why ? why ? why ? i sound like a 13 year old ranting on but why do things like this happen ? why don't people open their eyes and see who they are hurting ? why, if you can't handle a relationship do you even get into one in the first place ? why do people conform to what they have? there ARE others out there that i'm sure will appreciate you more. i understand that things aren't meant to be perfect or move-like but why do people conform ? maybe my thinking is naive ? maybe i should take my friends advice and not take anything serious right now but thats not what i want. i know its a bit contradicting because i refuse to date but i really do want a relationship. an exclusive, serious relationship and since i've pretty much been assured i won't find this at 19 is why i prefer to not date right now. i donno, there goes all those thoughts again. i'm pretty sure i've missed out on alot of them but meh. i should really go back to studying now. any thoughts ? -end | 
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